Easy! 5 Steps to Find Your Happy Code! Part 2

GOOD WITH ME: EASY! 5 STEPS TO FIND YOUR HAPPY CODE!

Here's Part 2 of the E-Course I promised you. If you're impatient and want all 5 parts right away click here where you can download the entire course as a convenient adobe pdf file.

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PART 2: THE TWO ESTEEMS

NOTE: This is the stuff that isn't taught in school.

Step 2 to find your happy code is to learn how to like yourself from the inside out. That means with or without what you are, do, have, or know and regardless of whether anyone else likes you or not.

The two esteems are not equal.

One comes from inside of you --- One comes from outside of you.

The theory of other-dependent esteem is the direct opposite of self-esteem.

There is no "self" in society's code version of self-esteem. Instead society touts other-dependent esteem with the focus on external sources such as respect and recognition from others, accomplishments, status, and prestige.

This teaches other-dependent esteem instead of self-dependent esteem and then we wonder why no one is happy for real or for very long.

Let's take a closer look at the difference between the two...

We'll begin with Other-Dependent Esteem in our comparison because it comes from external sources and is most prevalent in our society.

NOTE: Other-dependent esteem means that any esteem you have for yourself depends upon someone or something outside of yourself. 

That means that your happiness and self-worth depend upon someone or something outside of yourself, such as what you are, do, have, or know, what others think about you, your accomplishments and successes, looking good, being right, and being the best.

You may be one of the great majority of society who thinks they have the real deal, self-esteem, when you actually have other-dependent esteem. That's because most of the professionals teaching self-esteem have focused on the wrong thing without realizing it.

As a result, much of society depends upon someone or something outside of themselves to have whatever amount of esteem they have.

Let's take a look at some of the prevalent signs that the esteem you have for yourself is

Other-Dependent...

If you identified with any of the prevalent signs so far, watch what's coming up now...

This next prevalent sign has reached pandemic proportions throughout the world.

Now let's take a look at Self-Dependent esteem to learn why.

According to the same previously cited current research, the consensus has determined that less than 10-15% of our society has high self-esteem. I will show you a little later how high self-esteem is actually other-dependent esteem, too. (This will be covered in greater depth in the E-Course Good With Me and Beyond: How to Live Your Happy Code).

When you have self-dependent esteem,

the esteem you have for yourself does NOT depend upon

someone or something outside of you.

Let's take a look at some of the prevalent signs of Self-Dependent Esteem...

Wait a minute. Don't go anywhere. There's more!

NOTE: Individuals with other-dependent esteem might begin to realize how familiar and even comfortable the prevalent signs of other-dependent esteem have become.

To the contrary, more often than not, the prevalent signs of self-dependent esteem will be unfamiliar and perhaps uncomfortable to those with other-dependent esteem.

So let's get focused on accomplishing Step 2 right now. How to build self-dependent esteem instead of continuing to build a false sense of self-esteem that comes from someone or something outside of you...other-dependent esteem.

But before we move forward, I told you I would explain why both low and high self-esteem are actually other-dependent esteem. Here's why...

On the other hand, self-dependent esteem is constant and does not waiver between low and high because it comes from within you and is not affected by external sources.

EXAMPLE: Your self-esteem can go low when no one notices you (i.e., your supervisor walks right past you without even saying hello) and can be elevated to high when you receive positive attention (i.e., your supervisor compliments you for a job well done).

Have you ever noticed that your esteem can go from low to high and vice versa in a matter of minutes, sometimes even in a matter of seconds?

Why does that happen?

Because, as illustrated in both examples, you allowed someone outside of you to affect the way you feel about yourself.

You are actually experiencing other-dependent esteem in both examples because your self-esteem was affected by someone outside of you and varied from low to high as a result.

So now let's pick up where we left off in Part 1...it's time to learn how to build self-dependent esteem.

The next step that naturally follows to find your happy code is to recognize the value that you are!

I'll teach you how to recognize the value that you are in Part 3: RECOGNIZE MY WHAT?